Direction to help you move through the grief from a loss to find joy can be fleeting. Solutions and guidance, when found, are often an uphill and trying experience. Yet, there are meaningful and reliable steps, fundamental for success, to stop grieving and start healing.

"Deposits of unfinished grief reside in more American hearts that I ever imagined. Until these pockets are opened and their contents aired openly, they block unimagined amounts of human growth and potential. They can give rise to bizarre and unexplained behavior which causes untold internal stress." – Robert Kavanaugh.

You may be reading this article because you want to move through your grief, resolve unnecessary stress, and find peace and joy, correct?

The challenge for you is to find new purpose and happiness in your daily life. One of the goals of this article is to get you past nasty, hopeless and helpless grief relief stumbling blocks, now and forever.

Stop getting stuck in grief, sorrow, and loss, and start healing!

Have you ever had happiness block?

Have you ever had a feeling of confusion and uncertainty?

These are futile questions, aren't they?

The correct answer is definitely.

Why do you think you experience constant grieving stumbling blocks? Here are five really great ways to cast-off feelings of endless confusion and grief relief stumbling blocks, here and now:

Write about your grief happening. Tell your story over and over and get into a flow of understanding and healing of your pain that will keep you going no matter what. Verbalize your grief story to all who will listen. Most importantly is to take the time to write your grief story - all uncensored detail. There is healing in writing about your unique and personal grief happening. When you allow your heart to speak, the burdens it carries diminish.

Make a list of healing actions you can and are willing to take. When you keep an unending list of healing ideas, if you get stuck on one, go to the next one, and so on. In this way, you won't get stuck because the thoughts will continually flow.

Choose a specific daily action. It's best to choose one where there is a desired behavior or outcome, with nothing getting in the way.

Name what to stop doing. This may simply be a repeated action or limiting behavior. Underscore why it needs to be stopped and how. Specifically, clarify to yourself why this behavior is not in your best interest. Then choose to eliminate this action, idea or behavior.

Name what to start doing. It is imperative to make a particular choice of what you will start doing. Begin with the best option by identifying the clear benefits of each action. When you feel capable, add a second and third beneficial action from your selections. In this way, you'll never have to worry about grief healing block again. Use these steps to make your life more fulfilled and slow the constant grieving which starts the healing.

In short, tell your story. Write your uncensored grief loss story. Discontinue any and all actions that are not contributing to your health and healing. Make a list of all positive healing action steps you can take. Choose one or more daily healing action steps you can take. Get started today and everyday after that.

This article is dedicated to helping you unleash the private and unique grief relief stumbling blocks you may be experiencing.

Detours in recovery from grief and loss may seem like permanent stumbling blocks. When they may be nothing more than a few days of one step forward and two steps back. High walls, big steep mountains, inclement weather, intense fog can be temporary or lifelong stumbling blocks. Grief recovery can be that way. Life, in general, is like that - it is up to you. You alone must decide! Yet, powering forward you can dig deep internally for empowerment you didn't know you had. Healing and peace are worth fighting through transient stumbling blocks.

–John T. Catrett, III serves as a Chaplain with ONHL Hospice. ONHL Hospice currently provides services to the majority of Northeastern Oklahoma but is available to accept patients statewide. Learn more at